OWN YOUR HARMONY, OR ALLOW DISHARMONY TO OWN YOU!
HARMONY
is real...
A rich, meaningful, happy life...
is possible.
AND,
DISHARMONY
is as real...
And, a stressed, anxious, dissatisfying life
is not only possible,
but probable,
if you are not deliberately guiding your mind...
and thus your life.
I have the pleasure of visiting my family in Peru.
I have the great fortune of having multiple cultures from which to draw the context of my life.
And, I have examples all around me...
as do you.
DO YOU PAY ATTENTION?
DO YOU STUDY THE PEOPLE WHO LIVE THE WAY YOU WANT TO LIVE?
AND THE ONES WHO DON'T?
I can't help myself... I can't stop paying attention...
And, through time...
I SEE THE AFFECT of HARMONY AND DISHARMONY over time...
And, KNOWING the difference...
WHY ON EARTH would you choose anything other than growth, joy, mindfulness...
HARMONY.
I have people that I love that are buried so deep in disharmony, that I am not sure they can ever work themselves back out...
You start spinning into an abyss of wishing over time. I wish this person hadn't died, I wish I hadn't made that decision. I wish this wasn't happening to me. I wish people could see me. I wish I was worth... And, at some point, YOU DEFINE YOURSELF by your WISHES that aren't so, and DISHARMONY DEFINES YOU.
And, the minority of people spin into gratitude over time... by accepting this "IS", owning their wants and acknowledging their blessings. I miss this person who passed away and am grateful to have lived. I learned from my decisions in life, good and bad. I am still working on many aspects of who I am. People see me. I am flawed but worthy. And, at some point, YOU DEFINE YOURSELF by your IS and your WANT and HARMONY DEFINES YOU.
TRUTH IS...
We practice and bring harmony or disharmony to life
IN EVERY MOMENT
AND, because
HARMONY begets HARMONY,
and
DISHARMONY begets DISHARMONY,
if you give up on moments,
if you assume mindfulness doesn't really matter,
if you throw up your hands and say, I am what I am,
If you can't stop blaming all others for things you affect
If you JUST can't ACCEPT your "IS"...
SEE IT, EMBRACE IT, LOVE IT FOR ALL IT'S WORTH,
and then shape your moment by moving toward your want..
EITHER YOU WILL OWN YOUR HARMONY,
OR DISHARMONY WILL OWN YOU!
I haven't done the math. I haven't collected the science (though much of it exists). You can absolutely choose to disagree, roll your eyes, move along and discount this whole concept...
DO SO AT RISK OF YOUR SUSTAINED JOY...
I only need to do the math or collect the science to convince YOU... because I SEE LIVE EXAMPLES of it EVERY DAY...
THE AFFECT of HARMONY on LIFE IS REAL, MEANINGFUL and WORTH EVERY MOMENT.
ACCEPT YOUR IS,
DRIVE TOWARD YOUR WANT,
OWN YOUR JOY...
OWN YOUR LIFE...
OWN YOUR HARMONY...
Or... roll your dice with EVERYTHING on the line...
and wish for something other than disharmony...
Good luck with that!
Choose wisely!
Choose harmony!
Nestor
P.S. I want to write in specifics, and too often I find myself writing in generalities. I don't write in specifics often because of not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings, but I need to find a way to help you see the daily behaviors that we display in moments steer you into disharmony.
Look at your life... honestly... at your moments and consider:
What is the nature of your arguments? Are they over things that matter and are meaningful? Or are you making meaningless details matter?
Listen to the stories you tell to people... are they stories of woe, of frustration, of hardship... or are they stories of purpose, and deliberate action and possibility?
What is your mood when you get out of bed in the morning... are you going to "survive" the day, or are you going to "crush it"?
When you run into problems - do you feel like everyone around you is a moron, or do you think that progress is difficult and an important part of life is to constantly solve them?
When you meet people - are you skeptical if they really know what they are doing, or are you grateful for the opportunity to learn something new?
In the silence of your own mind - do you hear the voice of regret, the voice of frustration, or the voice of reality working to solve itself, or of possibility.
When you think about your life... does it feel like its happening to you, or are you making it happen?
When you think about yourself... are you pissed that the world doesn't see you as you deserve to be seen, or are you excited about who you are becoming?
YOU CAN DELIBERATELY OWN YOUR HARMONY... So many people that I see choosing not to, simply do not believe you can change your VALUES, your BEHAVIORS, your THOUGHTS... And, I know FROM FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE that you can, and I HAVE, and I AM... and I AM A WORK IN PROGRESS...
Part of achieving harmony in my own life, is accepting that everyone owns their own life, and people I love and care about may choose, consciously or subconsciously, never to embrace a different approach to it... and they will struggle with happiness until they die... and that IS what it IS.
And, part of achieving harmony in my own life is accepting that I don't have to stop trying to communicate to them and all of you, that it's real, possible and always simply a moment away...
Ultimately - Harmony ties into
THEORY X vs THEORY Y thinking.
FIXED mindset vs GROWTH mindset.
And, so many other definitions of human personalities / behavior / etc.
It is that simple and that complicated.
Some people have ASPECTS of their life where they live in HARMONY and aspects where they live in DISHARMONY...
WORK, KIDS, HEALTH, MARRIAGE, SELF, FRIENDS, HOBBIES, SPIRITUALITY
In every aspect - deliberate mindfulness matters...
PSA: HARMONY IS REAL... EITHER OWN IT, OR ALLOW DISHARMONY TO OWN YOU!