I was driving the other day, thinking about my aging parents and my relationship with them.
The thought came to my mind...
I wish (always words signaling a moment of oncoming disharmony)...
I wish that my parents, could just for a moment, KNOW ME...
I wish that my parents, could just KNOW ME for who I have become.
I wish that they could truly see my values and my motivation. I wish that they could understand the depth of my friendships, the passion in my heart, the commitment of my life to make it in some small way a contribution.
I wish that they could see my optimism for the future. I wish that they could know gratitude that I have for them and for life. '
I wish they could know how my sisters are so alive inside me, and such a live part of my inspiration everyday. I wish they could see the eyes of those I care about, as they acknowledge my presence in their lives.
I so WISH THEY COULD KNOW ME...
because if they did, I think they would die with a great peace that they did make contribution and left the world, just possibly, a little bit better than they found it.
And, I am fairly certain that they will never know me today. They are too programmed to see me as they have come to see me through the years. They can't see my evolution and my progress.
They love me and I love them. But, I am certain they love a version of me that no longer exists, or at best, is a far lesser version of me than they deserve to know.
BUT I CANT CHANGE ANY OF THAT... and wishing that makes me sad... its disharmony.
So, how do I embrace my truth and find HARMONY...
I rePOSITION that energy toward my children...
How do I see them?
And, I realize that this awareness must have already been in my subconscious. I realize that in large part I see them for who they are RIGHT NOW. I talk to them as the person they want to be. I see them going forward not in the past. I love them actively for who they are and specially for THE MEN THEY ARE BECOMING...
On facebook, I posted, "The greatest gift that I can give my sons is to see and engage each of them everyday as the man they are becoming not as the boys that they have been."
To me it is such a POWERFUL gift. I am not particularly good at gift giving - but these are the kind of gifts I like to find and give deliberately.
Note that I had to put "everyday" in my gift. The concept of "active giving" is such an important for harmony to me. To give a gift one day, to be conscious of something one day and act on it, accomplishes a fleeting moment of harmony...
To commit to a gift on going - that becomes a life force.. that becomes a trajectory shift... that become a life altering gift.
And, we change... we keep evolving... if we are not actively embracing each other as the people we are becoming - we fall behind ;-)
By the way, this reposition of the initial wish for my parents, then goes beyond my sons. I should embrace everyone that I work with as the people they are becoming... this is powerful... seeing people in the direction of their aspirations makes that aspiration feel real, and their confidence grow, and their progress grow...
That creates gravity not toward their old behavior and insecurity, but gravity and momentum toward their future self and want...
HARMONY is POWER...
REPOSITION WISHES into WANTS...
REPOSITION DISHARMONY into HARMONY...
And take every moment, every opportunity, every thought to move closer to your own want...
and change the world around you in the process...
rePOSITION your moments for HARMONY!
Nestor