I try and I try to keep this simple, and I most often complicate it.
If you don't follow this post, don't worry and don't give up. I promise you that it will eventually make sense. Some people "get it" with an example. Some people "get it" with the concept below. Some people "get it" with some story. Some people "get it" on their own. My request to you is that you don't quit. If you are interested in the topic... in success, in happiness, in peace of mind... read on, and if you get it, or if you don't, tell me via the comments on these pages. Help me make this simpler and clearer.
So, here it is....
At the very heart of all that I believe is this simple theory. It is, without a doubt, the MOST POWERFUL single thought that I have ever come across, and it summarizes so many other theories and philosophies that I have read regarding success, happiness and strategy.
First, we must accept that the ONLY thing that we can affect is THIS very moment. Whatever moment we are living. We cannot affect the past, and we cannot affect the future. The only place where we have any influence, the only place where we can make a difference, the only place where we can take a step toward our dreams... is in this very moment.
Realizing that the "moment" is the only place that matters and the only place that we exist, then I encourage you to think of every moment as an "atom". The "nucleus" of every moment, is the absolute truth of what is. The absolute truth must include all that is. It is both our strength and our weakness. It is both what we love about the moment, and what we don't. The absolute truth is objective. It is not our perception of reality, it is what is truly real. It takes practice and discipline to be able to see the absolute truth. Our truth is so often filtered and interpreted by our own bias. A simple way to know the absolute truth, is to truly listen to what everyone believes about the moment, and assume it all to be true. The good and the bad, its all part of it. When we can accept that, we can begin. (I will share many examples of this in future posts.)
Around that nucleus is an "outer ring" that represents a most important boundary. On the inside of that ring is the edge of what we "want" to be or what we want to achieve. On the outside of that ring is the beginning of what we "wish" we were...
Harmony is achieved in every moment where our vantage point is anchored inside the nucleus of "who we are", inside the nucleus of 'the absolute truth of who we are, what our relationship is, what our core competency is and isn't. When we anchor our vantage point accepting the absolute truth and move our energy in that moment toward who we want to be.
Disharmony happens in every moment where our vantage point is anchored outside the circle in who we "wish we were" and work our energy toward who we want to be.
When someone creates "harmony" in a moment, we recognize it. We feel it. We are drawn to people who consciously or subconsciously create harmony on an on-going basis.
These are the people whose advise we seek.
These are the people who help us better understand ourselves.
These are the people who we feel like we've known our whole lives, even if we've just met.
These are the people who ask us questions that help us better understand our "reality".
These are the people that make us feel like our dreams are possible.
These are the people that make us feel like we have a story to tell.
These are the people who make us feel worthy and enough.
These are the people who inspire us.
These are the people who we willingly and happily follow.
When someone crates "disharmony" on an on-going basis. We feel this as well.
These are the people we dread having to talk to.
These are the people who make us feel stupid, unprepared, worthless.
In every moment, we have the opportunity to create harmony, or disharmony/
In every moment, we have the opportunity to lay down an atom, or think of it as a "brick" onto the structure of ourselves, our relationships, our teams, our companies... the structure that overtime supports us and defines us, or take a brick away.
In every moment. we have the opportunity to take a step toward who we want to be, or feel the dissatisfaction of who we are not.
When we create moments of harmony, we build on the foundation of who we are.
Trying to build "success" or "happiness" with disharmony, from a vantage point of who we "wish we were", is like trying to build a house from the second floor down. It's impossible, it has no foundation.
So, it happens in every moment, or it doesn't.
The beauty of this is that you can literally transform the trajectory of a life in an instant.
The danger of this is that you can literally transform the trajectory of a life in an instant.
And, the next moment, you can transform it again.
Success and happiness and satisfaction comes from living moment after moment, showing up over and over again, anchoring your vantage point in the absolute truth of who you are, in gratitude and acceptance, and pushing with all that you are into who you want to be. And, then succeed or fail. In harmony or disharmony, showing up in the next moment and trying it all over again.
HARMONY... You can't see it in the moment. You can't hear it in the moment. But, you can FEEL IT when its there. And, it makes ALL of the difference in your ability, and the ability of each and everyone around you to achieve success and happiness.
Simple? I will keep working on it.
If you cut and paste this link onto your browser - you can see the 5 minute presentation... I botched the end... but the response from the audience was really fantastic and encouraging.
This is only the beginning!
Nestor