What happens in the absence of deliberate harmony?
I watch all around me, all the time… and I see examples…
Families that have some great relationships and some strained ones. People that seem to bounce between happiness and stress and anxiety. Businesses that follow waves in the economy like powerless vessels rising and falling with the tide.
In the absence of harmony, some people, some relationships, some businesses seem to thrive for some time and then all of a sudden implode or explode and we are all surprised.
Randomness…
In the absence of harmony… there is randomness…
Sometimes notes come together to form some beautiful music… often its just noise.
We are drawn occasionally to people that share our values or our general approach, but we are not sure why, other than the fact that we are comfortable with them or we “get them”.
Some people find their harmony in religion, some find it in their own words or their own definition of it… but those people who find sustained happiness and success have some version of being able to assess their absolute truth and accept it, embrace it and move constantly to the life of their “wants”…
I sometimes dismiss the importance or power of the concept of harmony, but then I watch closely and see what happens in the absence of it.
Many people have some “sense” of it, and apply it here and there… they work to understand, to accept, to be grateful… but then they get stuck in something… or they fall back to wishing about something …. Or they get anxious about the fear of something and they lose it.
Harmony is a north start… it is a reset button…
When we become aware of it – we are still very much human. We still fail in so many moments…. But we reset. We recognize and catch ourselves wishing, and reset into our absolute truth and focusing our energy on the want. We reset and catch ourselves anxious about the future, and come back to the now.
Being committed to harmony doesn’t mean being always happy and always positive… It means knowing the difference when you are in harmony versus in disharmony… it means finding more moments and being deliberate in more moments about recognizing and CREATING harmony. It means being mindful and grateful more often… it means KNOWING that we have a choice and working to MAKE THAT BETTER CHOICE more often.
I sometimes dismiss the importance and the impact of harmony – and then I am reminded of it – by seeing an example of a life without it. Well intentioned, loving, caring, intelligent people driving marriages apart, driving businesses apart, because they choose randomness by default.
I was watching a gentleman this week who has been running a business for decades, who wants desperately to see it succeed, but who cannot embrace the absolute truth and is exhausted from the random, or not so random lack of results.
Our egos so often think they know better. We blame it on other things…. On “external factors”, on the world is changing, on people don’t have the work ethic that they once did, on relationships are doomed from the beginning… we find reasons / excuses / realities that allow us to explain the “randomness”…
NOT IF WE CHOOSE HARMONY…
We all experience moments where we feel like the wind is at our back.
We all experience moments when we feel like we are in the groove.
We all experience moments when we feel alive and worthy.
We all experience moments where we feel full and grateful.
How many of us not only experience them, but recognize them?
How many of us not only experience them, but enjoy them?
How many of us not only experience them, but CREATE THEM DELIBERATELY.
How many of us not only experience them, but realize that we can create them with every moment that passes?
CHOOSE HARMONY or choose randomness…
CHOOSE HARMONY or choose noise…
Once you understand the difference… why would you choose anything else? Why would you choose randomness for your happiness, your success?
Why would you flip a coin in any moment to decide between harmony and disharmony?
Choose wisely.... Don't choose heads or tails... CHOOSE HARMONY!
Yours in harmony… DELIBERATELY,
Nestor