Harmony begets harmony…
Disharmony begets disharmony…
You have heard me say that before, but there is PROOF,
And this article in HBR I have been talking about for the two
Days give us the reason WHY this is true!
The HBR article reads:
“Strengthening the ability to maintain open awareness
(READ HERE “SEE THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH”)
requires leaders to do something that verges on the unnatural;
cultivate at least sometimes a willingness to not be in control, not offer up their own views, not judge others.
That is less a matter of deliberate action than of attitude adjustment.
One path to making that adjustment is through the classic power of
Positive thinking, because
pessimism narrows our focus
whereas positive emotions widen our attention and our receptiveness to the new and unexpected…
When you are in an upbeat mood the Univversity of Wisconsin neuroscientist Richard Davidson has found, your brain’s left prefrontal area lights up. That area harbors the circuitry that reminds us of how great we’ll feel when we reach
some long-sought goal.
(READ HERE “The WANT”… NOW READ THIS…
WAIT FOR IT…
WAIT FOR IT…)
“Talking about positive goals and dreams activates brain centers that open you up to new possibilities says Ricahrd Boyatzis, psychologist at Case Western Reserve,
BUT IF YOU CHANGE THE CONVERSATION TO WHAT YOU SHOULD DO TO FIX YOURSELF, IT CLOSES YOU DOWN…
YOU NEED THE NEGATIVE TO SURVIVE BUT THE POSITIVE TO THRIVE!”
NET:
It is PHYSIOLOGICAL…
“WISHING”, focusing on the gaps, the negative, the things you cannot control…
SHUTS YOU DOWN… SHUTS YOUR BRAIN DOWN…
NARROWS YOUR OPTIONS.
Embracing the truth…
Seeing the positive in the situation…
Focusing on the WANT that you can control…
OPENS YOU UP… OPENS YOUR BRAIN UP
“WIDENS your attention and receptiveness to the new and unexpected!”
We are WIRED in our brains for HARMONY or DISHARMONY…
Our brain is ready to deal with either.
Focusing on wishing, narrows our options, reduces our scope.
The more we find ourselves WISHING for things, specially things we cannot control,
The fewer options we can see.
The more we wish we had., the less we can see what we do have.
The less we can see the possibilities in the opportunities that present themselves.
The more we find ourselves embracing our truth and WANTING actively and deliberately…
The more our brains open themselves up to find new paths,
To see new possibilities, new opportunities…
The more our brains “remind us of how great we will feel when we reach some long sought goals.”
These are not the rantings of yours truly, a crazy bald guy…
The concept of harmony is wired into our DNA…
We are wired for HARMONY or DISHARMONY,
You want a DELIBERATE life of success and happiness?
DO YOU?
Then BE DELIBERATE about CHOOSING HARMONY….
About withholding judgment as you evaluate the situations in your life…
About defining your wants in a way that you can control…
About AVOIDING WISHING for things that you can’t control.
This is SCIENCE folks… not “touchy feely nonsense”, not just “philosophy”…
This is PHYSIOLOGY!
HARMONY BEGETS HARMONY
DISHARMONY BEGETS DISHARMONY
And
YOU
get
to
decide
WHICH TO EMBRACE!!
Yours in deliberate, science inspired harmony,
Nestor