Why am I so passionate about Harmony?
Three reasons…
First, because I deliberately and non-deliberately feel both harmony and disharmony everyday. I am not passionate about writing about harmony because I own it, nor because I am great, or even good at it. I write about it because I KNOW THE DIFFERENCE between the two. I want you to know the difference and be able to steer yourself more often, more moments, toward the mindset and the approach to life, that I know from experience everyday, feels so much better than the alternative.
Second, because writing about it keeps me mindful of it. It reminds me that there is a deliberate alternative that I can be leveraging and engaging in…
Third, because it is the most powerful and universal concept that I have ever understood. And, it is subtle. I write about it, because in all aspects of my life, I am thinking about it. And, from your feedback, I get the sense that reading about it in various situations, helps you see it, understand it, and hopefully improve upon it.
It’s become apparent to me this week that I think too much. I spend too much time in my head processing situations and thoughts. And, while I think there is value to that, there is also a cost to that. Our minds can only take into consideration so many things, and if we fill them with overthinking situations ,or dealing with overly mundane or meaningless topics, or stressing about tactical items of our lives or life’s “minutia” it consumes our “mind” share. Think of our “mind” share, as the market share. If we consume our minds with too much nonsense, small stuff, anxiety, stress, fear… it leaves LESS of our mindshare for the rest… possibly for the BIG and IMPORTANT things, but also for GRATITUDE, for JOY…
I notice it in myself as I evaluate myself versus those friends that I admire, versus those friends that I aspire to…
I spend more time thinking and less time in GRATITUDE and less time in JOY… and that PISSES ME OFF! I am smarter than that! I see the truth, now I need to define my WANT… And, I so want to be grateful and joyful… and I am feeling those things more often than I have ever felt… and there is still SO MUCH ROOM FOR ME TO GROW into that mindset!
Even as I write this today, I feel an urgency to get this done as I have not written for a few days. I think about this topic and whether its meaningful enough. I think about what other topics I could be writing about. I think about whether writing this makes more sense than starting some of the important work I need to do today for the company. I think and I think and I think…
Versus more BEING… It’s been a productive week… I am tired, but I am also looking forward to a great week with my boys this coming week. I am heading to a meeting that has great potential to be positively and materially positively impactful to our company and those I work with… I am grateful to be with my partner in crime on a comfortable train. I am grateful to be able to provide for my family better than ever. I am grateful to have the self awareness to continue to evaluate my behavior and make modifications to help me find greater and greater peace… I am grateful that you are there…. That there are others that value my thinking enough to take time from their days to read it and consider it…
And, when my mind is in gratitude and joy, it steps away from stress, or at least from over considering things that don’t need any further consideration…
We can control our minds, and thus we can be deliberate about our gratitude and joy.
We can control our minds, and thus we can be deliberate about our harmony.
We can control our minds, and thus we can be deliberate about our success and happiness.
Yours on the train to harmony (and to New York),
Nestor