3 FOR HARMONY
I find three general approaches to life that ultimately has a massive impact on our ability to find success and happiness…
Approach one: BLAME OTHERS & MARCH FORWARD HOLDING OTHERS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BAD
Can you think of anyone like this?
Approach two: BLAME YOURSELF & MARCH FORWARD WITH THE WEIGHT OFYOUR OWN INADEQUACY
Can you think of anyone like this?
Approach three: ACCEPT REALITY & MARCH FORWARD DELIBERATELY IMPROVING YOUR OWN ACTIONS
Can you think of anyone like this?
We all do some of each of these three. The first two, anything to do with blame, are versions of disharmony.
Only the third, produces harmony and, in my opinion, is the only approach that leads to true happiness.
Again, we are complicated creatures and we tend to apply all three approaches depending on
The SITUATION
The INDIVIDUAL
The DAY OF THE WEEK
Who knows…
Which approach do you tend to adopt…
AS A CHILD?
AS A PARENT?
AS A SPOUSE?
AS AN EMPLOYEE?
AS A PATRIOT?
AS A MEMBER OF THE HUMAN RACE?
I’m heavy on 2 and 3… I very seldom go to 1… but I do sometimes.
Approach 1 makes you arrogant, divisive, confrontational, typically unproductive, unaccountable, defensive, angry, inflexible, violent, anxious… occasionally powerful, never at peace. Typically, those who use approach 1 take responsibility for all that is good, even if they didn’t create it.
Approach 2 makes you doubting, unworthy, accountable for everything, self-deprecating, guilty, small, very productive at tactical activities, too flexible, powerless, uneffective… virtually never powerful, occasionally at peace. Typically, those with approach 2 seldom take responsibility for things that go well which is a double-whammy).
Approach 3 makes you peaceful, grateful, strategic, powerful, productive, predictive, realistic and optimistic, flexible, happy. Typically, those with approach 3, give credit all around where credit is due, are fun to work with – as they are confident and make other’s feel valuable and capable at the same time.
Think about these three approaches, and over and over and over… PICK 3…
If we can accept the truth without the fear of blame, and then act on the truth in a constructive way toward our vision of success… we can arrive at success AND enjoy the ride.
Could it be that simple? Absolutely…
Could it be that hard to embrace? You better believe it…
Think about it…
Which one are you?
And, when you start to apply 3… then you can become better, more affective, more efficient, more prolific at 3… and dream bigger dreams and achieve greater realities…
In small things..
In big things…
Keep the three people in mind… and choose wisely.
PICK 3 for HARMONY!
Nestor