I was exchanging emails with my son this weekend.
I admire who he is and who he is becoming. We all think the world of our children, and I try to be objective in my unconditional love ;-)
One of the things I admire most about him, is that even when things aren’t “natural” to him or how he things… I can feel him working to understand them, to consider them, and possibly to embrace them.
I wrote this paragraph in one of my emails to him - and in many ways it summarizes my whole philosophy and perspective on human beings…
“Everyone wants to feel something -
but more than anything -
we want to feel seen and appreciated...
No matter who you are, how successful you are or not,
the people who make you feel authentically seen and appreciated, are the people whom you follow, the people whom you seek, support... and, the people you admire...
Be one of those people - not because of how it will serve you, but because of how it will serve others..”
The ability to see past our differences, past our preferences, past our judgements… to acknowledge, appreciate and celebrate the unique beauty and value in every person we meet..
Ay…
there it is…
it’s everything…
I am not saying people are perfect… in ANY way. I am not saying not to acknowlege issues, opportunities, behaviors, where they are necessary to acknowledge and discuss..
Just know - it’s our ability to see the unique value in others and speak to it that creates the trust to make any possible critical conversation possible and constructive.
And, in parallel the ability to shift our own focus from ourselves onto others… in a positive and real way…
that is where magic, connection, love, purpose, meaning…
all come from…
That’s my two cents…
in harmony,
Nestor