The way we think shifts, evolves and iteratively turns or doesn't, one shared thought at a time. We sometimes refer to it as conversation. There are very rare moments when there is a large shift in the way we think. We call that "a-ha moments". The vast majority of the growth & evolution of our thought happens very slowly. This is why conversation matters so much.
Intelligent conversation.
Challenging conversation.
Disagreeable conversation.
STAY IN THE DISCOMFORT OF DISAGREEMENT LONGER.
In general, RESPECT & VALUE THOSE WITH WHOM YOU DISAGREE (they very often come from different background and have lived different experiences).
Don't shift to "let me convince you or let me walk away". Shift into "tell me more about how and why you see it that way".
The magic happens slowly - and most often - if we have conversations in the right way - both parties come away a little wiser.
Harmony happens one moment, one thought, one conversation at a time.
To understand the absolute truth that we share with others - we must stay in the discomfort of disagreement to truly see the total truth of the total perspective.
When we an embrace that - and respect that - as the absolute truth and step away from our truth as the wholof it...
Then we can step into a better place of understanding and agreement.
The expectation that we will convince others of our position, is unrealistic in a small time frame.
This is why politics is so screwed up. Noone wants to stay in the discomfort of disagreement without inflating the conversation to threats, insults and discounting comments.
Harmony takes patience.
Harmony takes persistence.
Harmony takes accepting that you shift reality moment by moment, not all at once.
And, if we can give each other credit for each step along our path, we stay in it longer... we get farther... we get closer...
WE EVOLVE!