Ironically, I “wish” I could control all the harmony around me…
And, by definition, that then creates disharmony in me.
As I understand harmony better, I want to help create it everywhere, in every conversation, in every relationship, in every moment.
And, I fail!
I fail because there is only so much that I can control, and I fail because I just cannot physically reach every moment in every dimension of my life.
It makes me sad… it frustrates me… because I know that harmony is just a small mindset away. It’s just a moment away.
But, I can’t!
To reach the greatest harmony, I must embrace fully the reality that I must accept disharmonies all around me. I will try to influence them. I will try to affect them as I can, but part of harmony is accepting our limitations – the limitations of our time, the limitations of our emotions, and the limitations of those around us and their ability to hear and comprehend and adopt.
I get it rationally. I must allow for disharmony, in order to achieve the greatest harmony.
But, emotionally, I am still fighting it.
Delegation requires a certain level of trust.
Happiness and success requires a certain level of trust – trust and truth.
The trust that even with some disharmony about – great harmony and success can be achieved. Truth, and acceptance of that truth, that even if we wanted to control all moments – its not realistic.
I have always known that there is some harmony that you can only find on the other side of disharmony. You need to go through hard, difficult, emotion-filled times to reach understanding, unification, and harmony.
But, this is a new realization that I am having to embrace. Allowing disharmony to consciously exist, and choosing deliberately not to engage in some moments is a must.
We need to plant the seeds of harmony. We need to give those we love and those we work with the tools and the understanding. And, then we must give them some room - some room to try and fail, some room to explore and succeed… and the space to be able to tell the difference.
And, we need to have the patience and the acceptance that different people will embrace these thoughts at different paces. And, that some people may never fully embrace these thougths.
Those are all part of the absolute truth.
And, my desire will always be to move them as close to harmony as I possibly can…
And, I will remind myself that allowing them their disharmony is a fundamental part of the journey.
The truth is we can't control it all, no matter whether we want to or not. And, that is a good thing. As if, in all honesty, I really did know better. Somewhere in the pursuit of an ultimate harmony I become arrogant - in that I believe I know better. I never want to be arrogant. I want to be inspired... I want to be a spark and I want to learn to appreciate more everyone's unique flame.
Harmony cannot be absolute... Harmony cannot be perfect... Because it is a human dynamic... But it does exist, and it is powerful, and it is the essence behind all success and harmony.
What we must seek is not perfect harmony, but frequent harmony... and, we must always start with ourselves. That is an adjustment that I must make. I must work to perfect my own harmony as I too often fail today, and I must be a little less concerned about trying to create it in others.
This is one of the hardest parts of rationality. You care about people, you care about companies, you care about it all… and to truly care and respect, we must give space. We must influence and yet allow others to run into walls, fall down, be frustrated, feel stress, feel overwhelmed… all the while nudging them (and ourselves) to embrace the truth and move it in every moment a little closer to the reality we dream of creating... so that they, so that I, can in those moments acknowledge the difference.
Yours in harmony,
Nestor