So, hopefully you heard (or read) yesterday's conversation and have some opinion,
about whether or not you think "Relationships are mirrors."
Yes?
No?
I think they very much are... in fact, I think in many ways
EVERYTHING we experience in life reflects back to us
a version, a perspective of ourselves...
Yesterday was about all of the relationships, "the mirrors", around you, and the YOU that you see with them...
And, if relationships are indeed mirrors,
YOU are a MIRROR
to everyone you know.
What kind of reflection do people see of themselves from their relationship with you?
from your words?
One way to know is to think about...
Are people drawn to you?
Do they open up to you easily?
Do they seek you out in their struggles?
Or, do people "transact" with you, and often "minimize" their interactions with you to the essentials?
I AM A MIRROR...
Am I deliberate
gracious
considerate
truthful
constructive
in what I reflect..?
I am very deliberate in the version of people that I try to reflect back...
AND - I often fail!
Remember - harmony happens in every moment...
People can see a loving and strong version of themselves in your words in one moment, and feel completely lost and dissapointed with themselves in the next...
The criticality that I wrote about a few days ago, that I struggle to shake about myself, catches other people's reflection... and they feel it.
I am a mirrror - and I want to help people see "the giant within them"...
I love this metaphor and this reality...
We are all mirrors, reflecting off each other... seeing ourselves in every relationship and then making some conclusion at every moment about how we feel about ourselves... about who we are...
Our conclusions are not the product of any single relationship or reflection, but are certainly more affected by some than others. We tend to remember the most positive and powerful ones, and the most negative and hurtful ones.
I see many people walking through life trying hard, pretending often, not to notice the mirrors... protecting some view of themselves that gives them comfort. They have defined who they are, and they aren't going to be "distracted" by all of the reflections around them...
SELF AWARENESS is looking into the mirrors every morning carefully, and studying all that you see...
SELF LOVE is embracing whatever version of yourself that you see and reaching out, holding its hand and walking it forward into the vision of the person you want to become....
One of the biggest mirrors is the one we look at and we look back... our own mirror is a two way mirror.. We see the reflection of who we are in our own minds, and we can look through the mirror and also see what is inside of us.
We are complicated beings.... we humans are.
We are who we are... and very likely we are the sum of our reflections....
We are a mirror for everyone else....
What do you reflect back to others?
Ah... that DEPENDS...
What do you BELIEVE about people?
What do you LOOK FOR in others?
What do you SEE in others?
And, importantly what do you SEE in yourself?
All of those things create the reflection back...
We are all in some ways a reflection of each other...
We are all in some ways the sum of our reflections...
AND, we can DELIBERATELY affect both the reflections we create, and the conclusions that we draw...
by SEEING better...
YOU CAN'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU SEE...
BUT YOU CAN CONTROL EVERYTHING, or almost everything that you reflect...
YOU ARE A MIRROR...
REFLECT LIGHT into DARKNESS...
REFLECT LOVE into HATE,
REFLECT STRENGTH into WEAKNESS.
REFLECT HARMONY INTO DISHARMONY.
REFLECT DELIBERATELY...
by SEEING DELIBERATELY THE BEST IN ALL OF US...
REFLECT A BETTER TOMORROW...
REFLECT ON THIS ;-)
REFLECT IN harmony,
Nestor