I expect conversations to go well...
And, they almost always do.
I enter conversations,
not knowing exactly how they are going to go...
but willing to UNDERSTAND the "IS"....
The reality of where things truly are,
what's truly important,
and
CRAFT A WAY FORWARD
TOGETHER...
TOWARD
what
we
mutually
WANT!
That's HARMONY!
SO
SO
SO
SO
Often...
I see conversations
SUCK!
And, they SUCK
typically for 1 reason.
People enter conversations
PRE-DETERMINED
to
achieve
what
they THINK is the best path forward.
That's it!
That makes the conversation great - if the other person agrees from the get go.
Or, more often, that makes the conversation SUCK - if the other person's opinion is actually different (and possibly better) in some way.
Even when people agree on something - when you feel like the decision is made, our human nature makes us battle it on some level.
People
don't
TRUST
each other.
They don't trust that MUTUAL WINS, come from MUTUAL WANTS...
and MUTUAL WANTS come from shared conversation.
OWN - the CONCLUSION... the COMPROMISE... the DIRECTION
that is set from good conversation.
DON'T OWN a PRE DETERMINED position, or idea...
It makes
CONVERSATIONS
SUCK!
It
creates
DISHARMONY -
because it creates an environment where from the first moment -
people WISH they didn't have to be a part of it...
or WISH they could have their way...
OWNERSHIP of your PRE-DETERMINED position into a conversation
makes other people take
OWNERSHIP of their interest and possibly their PRE-DETERMINED position...
That leads to WAR...
Conversations can be so
EASY
POWERFUL
ALIGNING
ENLIGHTENING...
But, you have to go in
not knowing exactly where you will come out.
You have to go in...
DEEPLY & HONESTLY
RESPECTING
the fact that someone else is going to be a part of it...
A REAL PART OF IT...
Not an audience,
but a PARTNER
in crafting a path forward...
SO SIMPLE...
SO VERY, VERY, VERY unusual.
Breaks my heart every time!
Fighting for harmony,
Nestor