I came across this conversation a few days ago...
I remember dictating it one morning as I drove to work...
Sometimes thoughts come through so clearly...
It is such a subtle and important observation. I get it deserved to be posted twice ;-)
I know...
Sometimes
when I tell my wife I love her
her soft response
is
"I know..."
I notice within myself
how very good that response feels.
it gives me a joy
that is somehow greater than
"I love you too!"
Maybe it's because I'm older,
maybe not, who knows...
But, when I think about it
LOVE is about connection.
Connection is a two-way link.
"I love you too" is a lovely thought.
But, it says "you are sending me energy, and I am sending you energy back in return."
That can be a lot of energy but not necessary a lot of connection.
With the response "I know "
the connection is being completed.
Energy is being sent.
Energy is being acknowledged.
Energy is being received.
To love is a beautiful thing,
but to know that your love is felt
is what truly fuels the soul
(and the relationship).
For love to beget love;
send, received, send, receive,
is a much more powerful formula
than send, send, send, send,...
I am convinced that the greatest opportunity in marriages,
and likely in all relationships,
is to know
with certainty
that your energy is felt...
that the connection is made...
and appreciated.
And, it is so critically important
to let each other KNOW
that is the case...
by actually saying it!
This truth is powerful
far beyond
what you may think.
I truly believe that knowing
that our love is felt and received
may be an even greater joy
than feeling loved ourselves.
The greatest gift you can GIVE
to those who love you,
is to let them know you feel it!
We lose our fire
when no one feels our heat.
Nobody wants to waste their energy.
Our real desire,
I believe,
is not "to love"
but to be connected,
to be acknowledged,
to be seen...
to know
that our love is felt. ..
because
only then,
through that connection,
can we be
momentarily
certain
of our worth.
connection...
"I know"
you can feel it...
in harmony,
Nestor