I hate blame...
Can't STAND it...
It's deep in my fiber... I grew up with blame all around me... and I saw first hand how it accomplishes nothing but disharmony.
You see, it's pretty simple...
Blame does two things that emasculate your being...
1. Blame EXTERNALIZES the problem. When you blame, you no longer have control. It's "out of your hands". And, that means you are essentially helpless to have changed the outcome, and helplessness leads to hopelessness and nothing is more debilitating. Blame Sucks!
2. Blame PREVENTS YOU LEARNING. As sad as the first truth is, this one is even sadder. When you blame, you fail to acknowledge that you always have something to learn from every experience. When you blame, you leave the invaluable lesson on the table, and not only are you in a hopeless place, but you've left the key to growth and change on the table. When you blame, you learn NOTHING... and even if you think you KNOW the lesson, you fail to OWN the lesson because "it wasn't really your fault anyway". Blame Sucks!
Oh (and there is a third, but I said two)... who cares... When you blame, you also DISTANCE the other party, you create DISTRUST with the other party, you create DEFENSIVENESS in the other party... so you are hopeless, without any lessons and ALONE - because the other party that you needed to accomplish whatever it was you were hoping to accomplish is now unwillig to help in any further way...
So, the answer my friends is so simple...
Just don't blame... even if there is rationality to do so. And, if you think maybe this time... just a little BLAME... NO!!!! STOP!!!! NO!!!! Not even a little! NO! NADA! ZIPPO! ZILCHO!!!
Why?
Because it buys you nothing... it accomplishes nothing ... but disharmony.
Instead...
OWN IT ALL! OWN EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE and see EVERY MOMENT as ANOTHER INVALUABLE LESSON INCLUDED IN THE PRICE OF ADMISSION.
CONSUME IT ALL...
APPLY IT ALL...
And, watch what happens...
in harmony,
Nestor